It’s trendy to work on a beach in Thailand or in Bali for the winter.
It’s acceptable to move out to another city for your dream job. Not a lot of people think about it twice.
It’s fashionable to travel around the world and move around with just a backpack.
It’s ok to travel all the time and go see customers and prospects all around the country.
We fulfill our quest for self actualization.
That’s the American Dream and that’s what favorite Instagrammers and Youtubers like to talk about.
We lose out though on one important thing: having people around us who care.
I think this is something that’s rarely talked about and underestimated.
Have people around you who look out will help you when you move out with the heavy boxes. They will encourage you to see the doctor when you are coughing blood or when you have to go through a chemo session. They will also be there to support when you lose your job – knowing that otherwise you will finish that bottle of vodka and be filled with sadness. They will hug you when you’re going through a rough time with your spouse.
Looking out for each other is not as fashionable as getting a new iPhone. It’s not as exciting as going for a trip to Indonesia. But it might save your life next time you are faced with a challenge. And it will make you happy.
So if you want to spend 6 months to be a digital nomad, what if instead the better option is investing time and attention in friends? Inviting friends for a dinner at home and caring for them is less expensive than the air ticket and it will be definitively worth it in the long term.
This is true today. And it will still be true in 10 years.
Is there a recipe to live past 100, and at the same time have a good quality of life?
That’s what Dan Bruettner tries to investigate in his book entitled “The Blue Zones, Second Edition: 9 Lessons for Living Longer From the People Who’ve Lived the Longest”.
With his team, Dan went to Barbagia in Sardinia (Italy), Ikaria (Greece), Okinawa (Japan), Loma Linda (California, United States), Nicoya (Costa Rica). These have relatively a high percentage of centenarians, and low occurrences of cancer, cardiovascular diseases, diabetes or COPD. Dan interviewed them on their diet, daily lifestyle, social networks and various habits. His findings are then discussed with doctors and health experts.
In the past year, I have dramatically decreased my social media and smartphone usage.
When I used to check the facebook frontpage multiple times per hour, I haven’t see it in four months. I used to post “interesting articles” on Twitter at least three times per day. As you can see, the only posts are automated links to this site. I used to like dozens of Instagram pics every day, going from hashtag to hashtag, in the hope of boosting my profile.
This is the same for WhatsApp, WeChat, emails and phone calls. Text me, and I would send a witty reply in seconds.
When talking to most people, I realize most do not know what is the appropriate food intake for them.
Most people eat and drink by “feel”. I am hungry so I need to eat a snack or lunch. I have finished my plate so I do not eat anymore. This coffee shop sells snacks in this portion size so I will be happy with what they offer.
And then, we are surprised by the extra weight building up. Or we cannot figure why we cannot go through a weight plateau, or why we cannot perform as well in sports. Even worse, a few will see the onset of debilitating chronic diseases, even if they thought they had a clean diet.
Did you ever had challenging situations where you felt being personally attacked but couldn’t respond back?
Or maybe that everyone was conspiring against you?
I’ve had several. Sometimes you can defuse or go past the attack. In others times, I could not do anything because the attack came from a boss or a client. The situation becomes a crisis for me when there are other people around. There’s feeling of shame, anger, and then thoughts of violence or revenge come to mind.